Are you looking forward to hosting a jack and Jill bachelor/bachelorette party? Maybe you and your partner decided to roll solo with the guys and gals? Is your family or friends looking forward to planning the bride‘s bachelorette party? Maybe the guys are looking forward to going on a bachelor’s weekend hunting or fishing trip, possibly heading to the strip club? Is your matron of honor the wild and sneaky one that will probably hire a male stripper to show up to your bachelorette party? In this article, we’re going to talk about the do’s and the don’ts for the host of a bachelor/bachelorette party and give you a list of questions that you can ask the host before the party date.
What Is a Bachelor/Bachelorette Party?
A bachelor/bachelorette is a pre-wedding celebration to honor a man or woman’s upcoming marriage.
Who is Designated to Host the Bachelor/Bachelorette Party?
The bachelor/bachelorette party is usually hosted by the best man or matron of honor, a parent, or close friend or family member.
Involving the Bride and/or Groom in the Bachelor/Bachelorette Party Planning
Some bachelors/bachelorettes choose to have involvement with the planning of their party instead of being surprised. There is no right or wrong answer. Remember, this party is a celebration for them.
Do’s and Don'ts of Planning a Bachelor/Bachelorette Party
DO Take Care of Things
As the host, it’s your job to make sure that everything goes smoothly. Once you’ve created a guest list and sent out invitations, follow up with those that have not yet sent back an RSVP. Depending on the party’s location, people may need to be punctual, and you need to make sure of that. Oh, and don’t forget the first-aid kid with some extra aspirin!
DON’T Schedule the Party for the Night Before the Wedding
Of course, you don’t want to upset anyone. And you certainly don’t want the bride or groom to miss their own wedding because you decided to plan their party the night before the big day! Spare your life, don’t even think about planning the party the night before the big day.
DO Make Plans to Have the Party a Few Weeks before the Wedding Day
Not everyone is going to be able to make it to the bachelor/bachelorette party. You Can't accommodate everyone. Work with what you have and give enough notice so that the invitees can make the proper arrangements.
DON’T Think that Everyone has Money to Spend
When planning the party, take into consideration that everyone’s financial situation is different. If you plan on renting out an expensive location to host the party, plan on dishing out more money. Before you start planning costly things to do, check in with others, and don’t assume that everyone has the same budget as you.
DO Pay for the Bride/Groom
As the host, do pay for the bride/groom’s expenses. If you can’t afford the entire cost, get with everyone before the day of the party. This way, you can ask everyone to pitch in a little extra cash to help cover the costs.
Questions to ask the Host about the Bachelor’s Party
- What will the theme of the party be?
- Where will the party take place?
- Will this be a guys-only party?
- Will there be alcohol at the bachelor’s party?
- Will there be female strippers?
- Will there be a designated driver?
Questions to ask the Host about the Bachelorette’s Party
- Who is Hosting the Bachelorette Party?
- What is the theme of the party?
- Where will the bachelorette party take place?
- Will this be a girls-only party?
- Will there be alcohol at the bachelorette party?
- Will there be any ale strippers?
Questions to ask when Hosting a Bachelor and/or Bachelorette Party Together
- Who is Hosting the Party?
- What is the Theme of the Party?
- Where Will the Party Take Place?
- Who will be invited?
- Will there be Alcohol for Our Party?
- Is this going to be a stripper-free party (no strippers)?
- What will be the dress code?
Regardless of how the bachelor/bachelorette party is planned, communication is vital. If you are the party host, you should be familiar with the bride/groom’s likes and dislikes. You are responsible for holding things together. If you are the bride/groom, this pre-wedding party is for you, and it’s ok to ask questions or make requests.
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