Having Doubts Before the Wedding

Is your dream of having a wedding ceremony in Central Park starting to feel like more than you can handle? Are you starting to get cold feet? Have you thought about maybe canceling your wedding plans? Are you wondering if you are making the right decision? 

OMG!! Someone, please call 911. We have a wedding planning EMERGENCY! 

How dare you have doubts about getting married…. And right before the wedding! Are you kidding me?

More than likely you are not KIDDING, but hey, I had to throw in a little sarcastic humor to help you loosen up a bit. Let's move on, shall we? Now it's time for you to take a look at the checklist below. There are a few things that you need to do immediately if you are having doubts about getting married. 

  • Take a deep breath.
  • Give yourself a break.
  • Explore your feelings. 
  • Consider talking to your partner about it. 
  • Seek counseling with your partner. 
  • Make an appointment with a therapist alone. 
  • Join an online support group. 
  • Read Psychology Today and find out what the professionals are saying. 
  • Seriously, give yourself another break! 

Did I mention that you have to give yourself a break? Alright, enough of my dark humor, let's talk business. You may be wondering if something is wrong with you or having doubts before tying the knot. However, believe it or not, your doubts are actually quite common. So let’s break things down and talk about the different doubts that some people experience before they tie the knot and how you can deal with them. 

The Most Common Doubts that People Have Before Getting Married

Common Doubt:

I don’t think we will be able to spend the rest of our lives together.

How to deal with it:

Take it one day at a time. Allow yourself to live in the present moment. 

Common Doubt: 

We come from two different backgrounds.

How to deal with it: 

No two people on this earth are the same. People come from all different backgrounds. That’s what shapes us into our unique selves. Try shifting your focus to each other’s qualities and where you are at in your lives now. 

Common Doubt: 

Our families are different.

How to deal with it: 

Sweetie, everyone’s family is different in some way. Your relationship is about you and your partner and what makes the both of you happy. Focus less on your family and more on building a strong, loving relationship with your future spouse. 

Common Doubt: 

We aren’t compatible enough.

How to deal with it: 

Opposites attract. There is a reason that you’ve come this far in your relationship. Sit down and write a list of things that make you compatible and compliment your relationship. 

Common Doubt: 

I’m concerned about our sex life after getting married.

How to deal with it: 

Sex is vital in any relationship. However, your relationship wasn’t built on that. Talk to your partner about ways to spice things up in the bedroom (or living room if you choose). 

Common Doubt: 

I'm afraid our relationship will be different after we get married.

How to deal with it: 

Your relationship may change a little bit after you get married. It’s not necessarily a bad thing. With change comes growth. Find ways to embrace the changes and appreciate your relationship as a married couple. 

Other Thoughts that Some People Have Before They Get Married 

  • I don’t think I’m good enough for my partner.
  • We are having trust issues.
  • We constantly argue and fight.
  • We aren’t able to discuss finances.
  • My partner is financially irresponsible.
  • I don’t know if I am still in love with my partner.
  • The relationship has been convenient.
  • We have different views about having children.
  • I think my partner has cheated on me. 
  • Our long-term goals aren’t the same anymore.

More Ways to Deal with Your Doubts about Getting Married 

  • Find the root cause of where your doubts are coming from.
  • Question any doubts that you’re having. Use a journal to document your thoughts and feelings. 
  • Discuss your concerns with your partner. 
  • Don’t compare your relationship to others' relationships. 
  • Create a list of the pros and cons of being married vs. not being married.
  • Ask for help from a professional for premarital individual and couples counseling. 


You dreamed of this moment for your whole life. A dream wedding ceremony in Central Park, across from the person you love. You are celebrating the love you share. And then that dream slowly started slipping away with doubts about getting married. Every relationship has moments of doubt. It’s ok. Getting married is a huge commitment and having doubts doesn’t mean that your relationship will fail. Being 100% certain about any relationship is impossible. Take a little time to find opportunities to grow individually and as a couple while dealing with doubts before the wedding. 

Don’t let your doubts keep you from the wedding ceremony of your dreams with your dream partner in your dream location.

Happenings™ Ever After

"Most people give up on their dreams of an iconic wedding ceremony because it feels too overwhelming to plan. We’re here to help you create a memory of a lifetime through thoughtfully organized planning tailored to iconic locations throughout Central Park so you can step into your moment with the one that you love."

"The most valuable and important thing we can deliver is 

an unforgettable memory."


About Happenings™ 

Based in Manhattan, Happenings™ founder Tom Noel would often take a walk through Central Park. In 2008, during one of his walks, he stopped to sit at one of his favorite iconic locations in the Park, the Bethesda Fountain. There, Mr. Noel noticed that the intrinsic beauty that surrounded him was not being fully harnessed. He also realized that not a single business provided the exclusiveness of an affordable and high-quality event planner. Determined to change this, Happenings™ was born.  

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